Battling Your Personal Prejudices: A Call for Change
Oct 26, 2020In today's world, headlines are filled with terms like racism, misogyny, homophobia, bigotry, sexism, ageism, nationalism, and anti-religious sentiment. It seems everyone feels discriminated against, yet identifying personal prejudices can be challenging. The truth is, everyone holds some degree of prejudice, as humans are naturally inclined to form tribes and seek belonging. Overcoming these ingrained tendencies is crucial for fostering understanding and unity.
Understanding Prejudice: A Deep-Seated Belief
Prejudice is a baseless and often negative preconception or attitude towards a group of people. It stems from a pre-judgment about a person's abilities, character, or worth based on their gender, identity, ideology, race, creed, or orientation. This unfounded belief alters how we see, feel, treat, and relate to others, perpetuating mistreatment, abuse, alienation, and division.
Addressing the Roots of Fear
- Recognize Fear as the Source: Most prejudices originate from fear, inadequacy, and close-mindedness. Acknowledge that prejudice often comes from a place of deep insecurity and low self-worth.
- Question Your Own Beliefs: Ask yourself why negative beliefs about certain groups feel easier to believe. Identify your fears and explore how those beliefs serve you.
- Confront Deep-Seated Fears: Dig deeper into your fears about specific groups. Understand the root cause, whether it's a fear of loss, a lack of control, or other underlying issues.
Shift Your Thinking: Seeing People More Completely
- Challenge Misguided Thinking: Prejudices are often based on misguided thinking, assumptions, and false beliefs. Overcoming prejudice requires a shift in thinking and a willingness to question these assumptions.
- Learn Continuously: Embrace a mindset of continuous learning. Challenge false beliefs by seeking knowledge about different groups, cultures, and perspectives.
- Explore Your Own Biases: Examine where your prejudices come from, and ask yourself why you believe certain things. Actively seek out information that challenges your existing biases.
Seeking Similarity, Not Disparity
- Find Common Ground: Focus on the commonalities that connect us all as human beings. Explore shared experiences, fears, needs, and desires.
- Practice Empathy: Put yourself in others' shoes and consider their perspectives. Imagine how you would feel if faced with similar circumstances.
- Break the Chains of Prejudice: Commit to breaking down at least one prejudicial belief in your life. Actively work to eliminate racism, sexism, ageism, and other biases.
Open Your Heart
- Identify the Fear Behind Bias: Examine the fear that drives your aversion to certain groups. Understand what makes you perceive them as a threat.
- Intentionally Learn More: Study and understand the lives of the groups or individuals you are biased against. Read, watch, and engage with their stories to gain a deeper understanding.
- See Similarity to Your Own Life: Recognize the similarities between your life and theirs. Foster empathy and understanding by finding common ground.
- Open Your Heart: Seek genuine change by allowing your heart to open to new perspectives. Embrace diversity and challenge your prejudices by fostering connections with people from different backgrounds.
By actively addressing personal prejudices, fostering empathy, and embracing diversity, individuals can contribute to a more inclusive and harmonious world. It starts with self-awareness, continuous learning, and a commitment to breaking the chains of prejudice that divide us.
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