The Three Conditions That Help You “Get in the Flow” On Your Life’s Difficult Challenges
Aug 07, 2020Amidst the challenges posed by the pandemic, it becomes crucial to prepare individuals, especially children, to handle these difficulties and turn them into opportunities for growth. Positive psychologists emphasize the concept of "Optimal Living," which involves incorporating three essential conditions of Flow into challenges: An Interesting Challenge, A Reasonable Plan, and Focused Action.
- An Interesting Challenge
Challenges as Opportunities:
Challenges are viewed as opportunities for growth, pushing individuals beyond their comfort zones. Selecting challenges that strike a balance between difficulty and manageability is essential. The intrinsic motivation generated by interesting challenges fosters optimal experiences.
Making Challenges Interesting:
Ensuring challenges are interesting is crucial for motivation. Interest doesn't necessarily mean wanting the challenge; it's about finding aspects that engage and captivate. Even seemingly undesirable challenges can become interesting by incorporating extrinsic motivators or intrinsic variables like confidence and the ability to overcome obstacles.
- A Reasonable Plan
Creating a Strategic Plan:
Developing a detailed plan for action is the next step. The plan should address potential problems and include alternatives if deviations occur. Active involvement of those implementing the plan is vital for its effectiveness.
Ensuring Reasonableness:
Many challenges are abandoned due to overly complex plans. Breaking down plans into manageable steps ensures reasonableness. Every complex plan can be dissected into smaller, achievable components. Taking the easiest step first creates a sense of accomplishment, contributing to a flow state.
- Focused Action on the Plan
Focus and Execution:
Focused action involves directing time and attention towards executing the reasonable plan. When the mind and body are engaged in action, individuals feel more confident in handling difficulties. Maintaining focus prevents distractions, interruptions, and confusion, enhancing the chances of success.
The Power of Action:
Action solidifies identity and success over time. It is a powerful tool for managing challenges, creating a flow akin to a river of peace, progress, and positivity. Lack of action, conversely, can result in a dam of frustration, anxiety, and negativity.
Incorporating these three conditions—An Interesting Challenge, A Reasonable Plan, and Focused Action—transforms chaotic situations into opportunities for growth and fulfillment. By navigating challenges with a strategic approach, individuals can foster resilience and experience the positive flow of life.
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